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Every month, a cycle ends -- and with it, all the highs, lows, lessons, and little moments that made it what it was. And then, just like that, a new month waits, brimming with possibilities. It’s always a good idea to pause right there at the threshold, to take a breath and set some sort of intention for what’s ahead. It doesn’t have to be elaborate. Sometimes, all it takes is a small whisper to the universe. A quiet petition. A prayer. For this girl, it’s blowing cinnamon at the front door. It’s quick and it feels like pure magic. 

You may or may not have heard about this monthly ritual, but if you’re new to it, it’s honestly one of the easiest spiritual practices to start. It’s all about inviting in the good stuff -- wishes, intentions, things like abundance, protection, peace, or whatever your heart desires for the month ahead. This practice focuses on the idea that what you bring into your space matters. So why not begin each month with a fresh energy, and a small moment that’s just for you?

The art of this ritual goes way back -- as far as ancient Egypt and Rome, from what we know. Back then, cinnamon was a luxury item, something rare and precious that stood for wealth and power. It wasn’t just a spice for cooking; it carried meaning and energy. That energy has stayed with cinnamon through the centuries, which is why it’s still one of the best tools to use for this kind of practice today.

A lot of practitioners' blend cinnamon into their rituals because of its long history. You’ll find this ritual practiced in Hoodoo, European folk magic, and many other traditions. It’s a link between the past and present -- bringing old-world magic right to your doorstep.


MONTHLY CINNAMON DOOR RITUAL 

What You Need:

  • A pinch or two of ground cinnamon 
  • A quiet moment near your front door
  • Your breath and intention

When to Do It:

  • First or last day of a month
  • Optional: On a new moon

How to Do It:

  1. Pause and breathe. Stand outside your front door. Take a few deep breaths to center yourself. Meditate, call upon energies if you'd like.

  2. Hold the cinnamon in your dominant hand. Take a small pinch in your hand. Think about what you want to bring into your home this month -- maybe calm, luck, protection, or fresh energy. Keep it simple and personal. 

  3. Set your intention. Imagine these energies flowing into the cinnamon in your hand. Quietly say an affirmation to yourself like, “I welcome good energy, protection, and abundance into this home.” Say whatever comes to you.

  4. Blow the cinnamon inside. Open your door slightly, and gently blow the cinnamon into your home, imagining your intention spreading with it.

  5. Close the door softly. As you close the door, take a moment to feel the new energy settling in.

  6. Repeat with other entryways. Especially if you have a backdoor, or side doors.

  7. Leave the cinnamon for 24 hours. Then you can sweep it up.

Sample Affirmation

If you struggle with what to say when setting intentions, feel free to use one of my own. It can range from easy (like above in the instructions) or to as poetic as you want. This is your ritual, and you get to choose what goes into it.

"Cinnamon spice and door ajar, bring blessings here from near and far. Light and Protection, prevent any harm. My home is always abundant and warm."


Tips & Variations for Your Cinnamon Door Ritual

  • Use what you have. If you are out of Cinnamon, or limited on ingredients, you can still put intentions into them and use even table salt to do this. Table salt is an open medium and can absorb anything.
  • Don’t stress the timing. The first of the month is great, but if you forget—do it when you remember. It’s more about the intention than the calendar.
  • Add a little extra. Some people like to sprinkle a bit of salt around the door for added protection or light a candle nearby to seal the energy.
  • Say it your way. Use affirmations, a short prayer, or just speak from the heart. There’s no “wrong” way. It can be silent, whispered, or spoken out loud.
  • Live in an apartment? If you can’t stand outside your front door, just blow the cinnamon across your entryway from inside your space. Same energy, same power.
  • Clean up when it feels right. Some leave the cinnamon for a few hours, some sweep it up right away. Trust what feels good. If you’re worried about pets, clean it up sooner.
  • Want to journal after? Writing down what you’re calling in for the month is a beautiful way to anchor your ritual. Just a line or two is enough.

Rituals don't have to be complicated; they just have to mean something to you. Take some time this month to pause and focus on what you want to invite for yourself. Here's to clean slates, open doors, and the magic of cinnamon.


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I’ve always loved Oracle cards. They can be as simple or as deep as you want them to be. Some decks have just a single word on them, some are just images with no words at all. There’s really no right or wrong way to use them--it’s all super personal and intuitive. That’s what I love about them.

But also… decks are super-duper expensive. Like, $40 to $60 for the pretty ones I drool over. And your girl is broken sometimes. I don’t always have the money to drop on a fancy deck, even though I’d love to support those creators (and I still do when I can!). But part of having a spiritual practice is also knowing how to customize your tools and make them feel personal and meaningful to you. So, I’m going to show you one of my favorite little DIY projects: How I made my own oracle deck… out of paint swatches.

Yes, you read that correctly! Paint swatches! And it turned out to be one of the most fun and magical things I’ve done in a while.

WHY PAINT SWATCHES?
  • First of all--free!
  • The color names are often super poetic and weirdly deep. Like “Whispering Pine” or “Soft Moonlight.”
  • The colors themselves carry meaning and energy.
  • They’re sturdy, easy to shuffle, and feel like little cards already.
  • And honestly? The whole thing becomes a meditative creative practice.

WHAT YOU'LL NEED
  • A stack of paint swatches (I got mine at Walmart, but anywhere with a paint section works)
  • A Sharpie or whatever you like to write with
  • Any extra stuff you want to decorate with: pens, markers, stickers, paint washi tape, glitter--go wild
  • Optional but encouraged: some crystals, incense, music, or whatever makes it feel sacred
  • A notebook or journal to jot down meanings

HOW TO MAKE AN ORACLE DECK OUT OF PAINT SWATCHES.


1. Let Your Intuition Pick the Swatches

Head to the paint aisle and let your gut guide you. Don’t overthink. Just go with the colors and the paint names that call out to you. Trust that there’s a reason you’re drawn to them. I just stood there for a bit grabbing the ones that called out to me. When I got good handful of them, I took them home.

2. Gather Your Stuff and Set the Mood

Next, grab your supplies. If you’re like me, sometimes you want to go full aesthetic mode and other times you just want it done and functional. You can use markers, paint, stamps, ink, whatever floats your boat. To set the mood I simply meditated to put myself into the right headspace. If you'd like to take it a step further, you can create an entire ritual out of it by lighting a candle and creating a sacred space with some incense.

3. Sit With Each Card and Assign a Meaning

When I finished meditating, I shuffled through each card and wrote down the meanings as they came to me. I also doodled drawings on them that related to the card. In order to do this, you might want to write in sharpie on the card if you plan on further drawing and covering it up with paint later.  You can also tune into each and see how they feel. You may ask yourself:

  • What does this color feel like?
  • What message does the name give me?
  • What situation or energy might this card represent?

You can write the meaning on the back of the card or keep a journal where you list all your interpretations. This step is where you really get to infuse your intuition into the deck.

4. Personalize and Decorate (If You Want)

After writing down the meanings on your card or in your journal, it's time to make them pretty, if you'd like! Use whatever media floats your boat to decorate. If you’re like me and just wanted to get the magic flowing, only using a sharpie and drawing some doodles did the trick just fine. The point is to make them yours. You’re not trying to impress anyone---this is about connection, not perfection. The goal isn't to stress yourself out with this project but to use it as a tool to hone into your intuition and the messages that you need to receive. 

If you try this, I would love to hear about the paint names you picked for your deck. Comment Below!



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Tarot gets such a bad rep, thanks to movies. You know a scene -- a bunch of teenage girls sitting in front of a tarot reader, the death card gets pulled and for the next few minutes of the movie, all hell breaks loose. There's a quiet pause, and dramatic gasps throughout the room. It's all doom and gloom, and someone is going to die! 

In reality? Tarot isn't like that at all (unless you make it that way). It's subjective and all depends on the person who is wielding it. And that death card? It means change is knocking and it wants you to invite it in rather than fleeing from it. Tarot is simply a mirror you hold up against yourself. In a muddled world full of confusion and the fast life, Tarot wants you to slow down and see clearly what's going on inside. 

In times of great confusion or trouble, I find myself reaching for my deck when everything is tangled like a ball of thread. Once everything gets unraveled, it feels a lot better, and I can move forward with the life I envision for myself. Today, I wanted to discuss a bit about what tarot is and is not, at least for me. Hopefully, I can inspire those who are a little anxious to get started in this type of divination practice. 

WHAT TAROT IS AND ISNT - IN MY OPINION

When I sit down at my table with my tarot deck, I’m not asking the universe to predict what’s going to happen. I’m definitely not pulling cards looking for some dramatic confirmation that someone’s going to die soon. Life already sucks sometimes, why would I willingly put my brain through that kind of stress?

For me, tarot feels more like sitting down with an older sister or a mother figure. We chat. We sip metaphorical tea. I leave knowing a little more than I did before I plopped my backside in the chair. Sometimes the messages are soft and nurturing. Other times, they’re blunt and a little sassy. But either way, I know the cards are working in my highest good.

And when a card comes up that rubs me the wrong way? That usually means I’m not ready to face something yet, or I’m actively avoiding the discomfort it brings.

Tarot has this way of cutting through the emotional noise. Sometimes it tells you, “Hey, your feelings are clouding your judgment-- zoom out a little.” Other times, it tells you to stop overthinking everything and just go sit with your feelings for a while. It’s a balance. A necessary, messy, beautiful balance.

MY FAVORITE WAY TO READ THE CARDS

Most of the time, I’m not doing complex spreads like the Celtic Cross or a full New Year reading--not unless I’ve set clear intentions for that kind of practice. I'd rather do a small routine daily that is woven in magic that keeps me down to earth. It’s something I’ve shaped over time, and it works beautifully for where I’m at right now.

✦ Step One: Grab My Decks
I only own two decks right now -- one tarot and one oracle-- but honestly, that’s all I need right now. If you’ve got a collection, pick whichever ones speak to you in the moment. Trust the instinct I always use an oracle deck and tarot deck each time.

✦ Step Two: Cleanse with Cinnamon Smoke
Cinnamon feels like a portal opener to me. It awakens the senses and clears out any gunk that might cling to the energy of a reading. I light the end of a cinnamon stick until it catches, blow it out, and let the smoke rise.

  • I wave the smoke counterclockwise around my decks to banish any stagnant or negative energy.

  • Then I go clockwise to invite in my guides, the universe, or my higher self-- whoever wants to show up in that moment.

✦ Step Three: Pull One Oracle Card
Oracle cards set the mood of the entire reading (or theme). They’re usually simple--a word, an image, a vibe--but they hit straight to the emotional core. I pull this card first to get a sense of the energy I need to pay attention to. It's kind of like having a compass.

✦ Step Four: Pull One Tarot Card
I knock on the deck three times to wake up the energy, then shuffle. I stop when a card pops out-- and sometimes they really pop, like smack-me-in-the-face energy. This tarot card is meant to expand on or clarify the previously pulled Oracle card. And if more than one jumps out? I take that as the universe yelling, “Hey! Pay Attention! This requires more than one card today!”

✦ Step Five: Give Thanks
Before I do anything else, I take a moment to say thank you for the message. Then I scribble it down, especially If I'm confused in the moment, I can come back later. I take some time to meditate on the answer I got then release the energies influencing the cards and thank it as well.

A FEW CARDS THAT KEEP COMING UP FOR ME LATELY

One card that’s haunted me for years is the High Priestess, almost always in reverse. She shows up when I’m ignoring my intuition, not trusting myself, or not allowing myself to be feminine in the way I desire. But lately, she hasn’t been appearing as often—because I’ve been doing the work to invite her energy into my life.

Still, every now and then, she pops back up with a cosmic finger wag and says “Girl, pay attention!!” When I don't listen, my life gets a little chaotic for sure.

TRY THIS AFTER YOUR NEXT CARD PULL

Grab your tarot journal and your deck-- yep, we’re getting into it. After your next reading, take a moment to really sit with the energy that came through. Let’s write it out. Let’s get honest and raw.

Ask yourself:

  • What emotions came up when I saw this card?

  • What area of my life is this message trying to guide me toward?

  • Am I resisting this message… or am I open to receiving it?

Let your answers flow without judgment. This is your space to reflect, connect, and maybe even surprise yourself.

FINAL THOUGHTS

Tarot isn't about having all the answers handed to you on a silver platter. It's about showing up for oneself, despite the path being foggy or messy. Each card, each pull, is an invitation to slow down, listen, and reflect. The messages received aren't set in stone, we are powerful beings that can change our future. This is why I don't use Tarot for fortune telling. So, keep showing up for yourself, and you'll be pleasantly surprised at how things work out for you!

What card keeps showing up for you lately? Leave a comment below!



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For as long as I can remember, my grandparents' porch was painted this soft bluish-gray color. I didn't think much on it growing up, it was simply part of the house. I can still remember the way the light hit it in the afternoons, turning the whole porch into a cozy space. I spent so many days out there, riding my tricycle across the creaky wooden floorboards, walking up the steps in my Halloween costume with grinning pumpkins, birdwatching with my papa who had a favorite squirrel he'd look for near the feeders (although he never admitted to liking that squirrel), or sitting in the porch swing with a melting popsicle in hand on scorching summer days.

One of my favorite memories is watching my grandma sweep the porch floor with her straw broom. That blue floor always looked fresh when it was finished. There was just something so sacred about it, even though I didn’t have the words for it at the time. It felt magical. It was safe. Like nothing bad could touch you.

As I got older, I started noticing how color began to influence a lot of the world around me. From TV ads to emotions to what you wore on the street. As a spiritual practitioner, I work a lot with color magic, so naturally, I started to wonder: if blue calms the mind and represents peace, maybe there was more to those to the porch floor being blue. Turns out, there is. I’m talking about the color haint blue.

WHAT IS HAINT BLUE ANYWAY?

If you’ve grown up in the South like I did, you’ve definitely seen this color before, usually on porch ceilings, shutters, floors, or doors. It’s a soft, pale blue. A lot of folks say painting your porch this color keeps bugs away (and I'm going to research that scientifically later), but the meaning goes way beyond a few palmetto bugs.

In Southern folklore, the blue color is meant to keep away haints. The word “haint” comes from “haunt,” and it refers to restless or troubled spirits. But here’s the part we don’t talk about enough: this word and tradition didn’t just appear out of thin air. It came from the Gullah Geechee people.

THE GULLAH GEECHEE AND HAINTS

Slaves during slavery in the South. Photograph display on Gullah culture at Boone Hall Plantation. Photo by denisbin on Flickr. Share with CC 2.0 License

The Gullah Geechee are descendants of West and Central Africans who were enslaved and brought to the coastal South, mainly South Carolina, Georgia, and Northern Florida. They held onto their language, spiritual practices, and traditions through generations, despite all the odds stacked against them.

Part of that tradition includes spiritual protection. In Gullah belief, haints were malevolent spirits that could bring illness, misfortune, or death. Since spirits couldn’t cross water, one way to protect your home was to paint the threshold, this was the doors, windows, and especially porch ceiling. The goal was the shade had to resemble water or open sky to confuse Haints and keep them from disturbing the home. 

Back then, haint blue was made using the indigo plant, which was cultivated in the South through the forced labor of enslaved Africans. The indigo was mixed with limewash or milk paint (casein) to create natural blue paint. And since the ingredients varied from place to place, the color wasn’t always the same. Haint blue could range from grayish blue to greenish blue, there wasn’t one perfect shade like you can get from a store today. Today, the colors Carolina Blue or Robin's Egg Blue are used for Haint colors.

THE BOO HAG - A GULLAH FOLK LEGEND

One of the most fascinating, and chilling, stories I've heard about haints is that of the Boo Hag. According to Gullah culture, the Boo Hag is a shapeshifting spirit that could transform into the faces of familiar people during the day, to not raise suspicion. The Boo Hag then follows her victim home, and at night, she goes sheds her skin to be able to squeeze through the door without issue. She then sits on the chest of her victim (sound familiar? Sleep paralysis demon, anyone?) and sucks away their breath or energy before sunrise. If she is caught without her skin on by the time the sun comes up, that is the end of the Boo Hag. If the victim woke up with marks, or is tired in the morning, they likely received a visit from her. If the air gets hot and muggy and something smells rotten, she is near.

A TRADITION THAT SPREAD WITHOUT EDUCATION

The practice of painting one’s porch blue spread throughout Southern white homes. But like most Black traditions, the story behind it was left untold, lost, or appropriated. What became a cutesy Southern charm aesthetic actually belonged to a spiritual practice that meant so much more than that. The color tells a story.

My grandmother -- and probably a lot of Southern grandmothers -- never knew the true origins of their porch colors. But it can’t hurt to educate those who partake and hold a lot more reverence for something that holds such deep meaning. My grandmother and probably a lot of southern grandmothers probably never knew the blue origins of their porch colors, but it cannot hurt to educate and have a lot more reverence for something. 

HONORING THE ROOTS WHILE KEEPING THE MAGIC

As a Southern white woman who adores the folklore and traditions of this area, I still love the sight of a haint blue porch when I am out in the wild. However, I love it for a deeper, more meaningful reason. It's not just a charming aesthetic. It's a symbol of spiritual protection that was born from pain, hope, and resistance. I want to admire it not just for its soothing color but for what it meant, and still means, to the people who created the tradition.

I’m in awe of a culture that, even under the horrors of enslavement, found ways to hold on to what they believed, to guard their homes, and to pass down their magic. They were told they couldn’t have their language, their homes, or their freedom, but they still carved out a sacred space, one porch at a time. This quiet form of rebellion echoes across the floorboards, whispering stories still to those willing to tune in and listen.

And maybe it’s the Celtic in me -- my own ancestors fought to keep their beliefs alive against being erased too -- but I think that fight, that holding on to your roots no matter the cost, is one of the purest forms of human spirit. Traditions like these shouldn't be flattened into just decor. They should be honored. Preserved. Remembered. And if we borrow from them, we should do so with care and reverence. 





With the summer heat and the state of the world, sometimes we need to cool off and put the phone down and just step outside into some sunshine for a moment. Now, if you live in the south like me-- going outside can be considered exercise just by going out the door. The heat will get you for sure. If you want to slow down, enjoy the summer, and get rid of bugs all at once, the answer you're looking for is Lemon Balm Lemonade. Not only is it a cool refreshing twist on a summer classic drink, but it's also good for your brain. 

WHAT IS LEMON BALM?

Lemon Balm is a sibling in the mint family, but it has a lemony smell and taste. When dried, it smells like black tea and citrus together (well, in my opinion, it does).

The benefits of Lemon Balm are calming the mind, helping digestion, and just giving a bright zing to whatever you add it to. Those that struggle with ADHD might benefit from this herb altogether. Historically, it is considered the herb of immortality as well. Daily drinkers of this herb tend to live longer. People have also added lemon balm into their natural pesticide regimen or into their bug spray, as it contains citronellal, a close chemical to citronella.

It's easy to grow. Sow in the spring. It will grow, given the right conditions, all summer long. It likes full sun or partial shade. The soil has to be well draining, and companion planting will help it thrive. You can grow the herb from starter pods or start from seed, but remember that this plant will be going into your food or drink. It's better to find a nursery that doesn't use pesticides. Remember that since it is in the mint family, it can be invasive and spread like wildfire if not properly maintained.

If you cannot grow lemon balm, you can often find it from local sources, gardening centers, friends, farmers, or dried herbal teas online. Fresh is often best to harvest its healing benefits, but dried will work in a pinch as well!

BEST TIME TO SERVE 

This concoction is perfect for picnics, kicking off the summer vibes, having a cool drink after yard work, in the morning to set a calm tone for the day, before dinner to aid in ramping up digestion, or any time you need stress relief or extra sunshine in your life.

A CALMING SUMMER ROUTINE TO DO SEASONALLY

Make lemon balm lemonade at the beginning of summer, take out a journal, and sip your drink. Think about what it is that you want for the season. It could be flourishing crops, more travel, getting to experience an aesthetic summer, more fun with kids before school returns, etc. The possibilities are endless. Write your intentions out and meditate in the sunshine as you finish your glass.

Here is the recipe:

Lemon Balm Lemonade



Prep Time: 15 minutes
Cook Time: 10 minutes
Servings: 1 pitcher full

Ingredients:

  • 1 Cup of Fresh Lemon Balm Leaves (or 1/4 Cup dried)
  • 1 Cup of Fresh Squeezed Lemon Joice (4-6 Lemons)
  • 1/2 to 1/4 Cup of Honey, Agave, or Simple Syrup
  • 5-6 Cups of Water
  • Optional: Lemon Slices, Extra Lemon Balm for Garnish, or Lavender Buds

Instructions:

  1. Make a Lemon Balm Infusion
    In a pot, bring 2 cups of water to a boil. Once boiled, turn it off and add Lemon Balm leaves and cover. Steep the mixture for 15 to 20 minutes. Strain and discard the herbs (or compost them)

  2. Juice the Lemons
    While the lemon balm steeps, juice your lemons until you have 1 cup of liquid. Remove the seeds, leave the pulp if you prefer it

  3. Sweeten the Infusion
    While the lemon balm mixture is still warm, you can add your sweetener to dissolve it. Stir to make sure it is fully in cooperated.

  4. Mix it Altogether
    In large pitcher, combine lemon juice, lemon balm infusion, and remaining cold water. Stir well, adjust sweetness.

  5. Chill & Serve
    Refrigerate at least for 30 minutes. Serve over ice with fresh lemon slices or garnishes of choice.




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In a world constantly expecting perfection, it’s easy to let that energy seep into your magical practice. The bells and whistles, the elaborate setups, the perfectly arranged altars, the picture-perfect photos, are wonderful when you have the time and energy. But what about those days when you just wrinkle your nose at the thought of following all the long-winded steps? That's when your practice starts to feel like a chore when it should be as easy as breathing sometimes. 

I say this with love and kindness: it’s okay to have a messy practice that works for you. No one else is like you, and no one else will do it the way you do. It might not be Pinterest perfect, but it gets the job done --and having it done is far better than not starting because of burnout.

In this post, I wanted to share some practical magic tips and tricks I've picked up along the way to make it easier to implement in a daily life. 

WORK WITH LESS HERBS

It’s crazy, right? We always see those beautiful home apothecaries with jam jars filled with herbs that most people haven’t even heard of. Make no mistake about it, building an herb collection can definitely be something to work towards, but is the stress of learning every herb and figuring out which to use for spell work really worth it if it means not touching your practice at all? Just because you don’t have *checks notes* Tulsi down yet?

In herbalism, there is a saying that says it is better to know a few herbs with a few strong properties than to know hundreds of herbs for just one property. With how many plants there are in the world, you'd go mad with trying to remember them all. Pick 5 to 10 herbs to stick with in your arsenal that covers these categories: Protection, Cleansing, Health, Prosperity, Love or Self-Love, Banishing, Clarity, Relaxation, Divination, Balance. 

You can always grow and add more later (yes, that was a gardening pun).

NOTABLE OGs AND THEIR MAGICAL PROPERTIES:

Lavender: Peace, Protection, Sleep, Calm, Purification

Rosemary: Protection, Cleansing, Mental Clarity, Banishing Negativity

Basil: Prosperity, Love, Courage, Protection

Chamomile: Healing, Relaxation, Happiness, Purification

Lemon Balm: Emotional Balance, Mood Lifting, Stress Relief, Uplifting

Sage: Cleansing, Protection, Wisdom, Spiritual Healing

Mint: Prosperity, Healing, Protection, Energy Boost

Thyme: Courage, Healing, Strength, Purification

Calendula: Protection, Healing, Happiness, Success

Cinnamon: Prosperity, Love, Energy, Spiritual Power

BONUS TIP

When you’re in a pinch, common spice blends like Italian Seasoning or Herbs de Provence can work surprisingly well for many of the spell categories listed above. Just charge them with your current spell intention at the time of use. Also, don’t underestimate the power of plain salt or pepper.

BEDSIDE MAGIC FOR LOW ENERGY DAYS

Somedays, even hopping in the shower feels like climbing a mountain. I know this from experience. And for disabled witches or those with chronic illnesses and flare ups, that's not just a bad day -- it's reality. Just because the body is limited, doesn't mean magic is. Magic rises to meet you where you are, and it doesn't care if you get out of bed or not. It wants to connect. Here are some ideas on how to achieve that:

1.) Breath Work and Visualization

Our breath is a magical tool. Use it with purpose. As you inhale, draw in protective or energizing energy. On the exhale, release stagnant, heavy energy that no longer serves you. To deepen the practice, visualize the energy you're breathing in as a color -- something soft, radiant, or strong -- and imagine it filling your body, gently overtaking the tiredness. If visualization doesn’t come easily (and that’s okay!), you can hum the negativity out or speak your release, it works just as good. Here are some sayings to get it started:

For Healing or Release:
With each breath, I release what no longer serves me.
With each breath, my body softens and repairs.
With each breath, pain loses its power.


For Energy & Clarity:
With each breath, energy returns to me.
With each breath, I become clear and focused.
With each breath, my fire is rekindled.

2.) Keep Charged Items Close By

Crystal grids are amazing, and they don’t have to be elaborate. A simple piece of clear quartz can do the job beautifully. You can charge it yourself or ask a trusted witchy friend to do it for you.

The purpose of keeping charged, meaningful items nearby is to create a supportive energetic field; one that gently gives back when you’re running low. Especially when programmed to transmute stagnant energy, these tools help shift your space and allow you to soak up replenishing, aligned energy that supports both body and spirit.

And it’s not just crystals; you can charge anything with intention:
-- A poppet filled with herbs
-- A plant on your windowsill
-- A cup of moon water for sipping
-- A piece of jewelry or sentimental object

3. Energy Sending:

Got an issue? Send energy to it through a method called focused intention. You don’t need a full ritual, just a few moments of quiet focus. Close your eyes, take a breath, and imagine the best possible outcome happening for the situation. If visualization doesn’t come easily, simply speak your desire aloud or write it down in a petition

Writing a petition is another powerful tool. It can be as simple as scribbling a sentence or two on a scrap of paper or typing it in your phone notes. You can say for instance:

“I ask for clarity and resolution for this situation.”
“This conflict is dissolved and brings peace to all involved.”

Once your petition is written, you can fold it, place it under a candle, crystal, or cup of water. You can also keep it near you and trust that the universe or whatever power you harness has set it in motion for you. If you're using a cellphone with notes for your petition, be sure to tuck the phone under your pillow with the app open but the screen off.

4. Play Magical Audio:

Podcasts, meditations, and spiritual music can completely shift the energy of a space, especially on low-energy days. They help you stay encouraged and connected to your practice, even when you’re not actively casting. Need to do a spell but can’t muster the energy? Just search for an affirmation that aligns with your intention, pop on a pair of headphones, and listen with focus and repetition. That’s it! You’ve just done a spell from bed!

USE BIRTHDAY CANDLES FOR SPELLS

Candles can get pretty expensive, especially the ones made out of beeswax. It's perfectly okay to use small chime candles that you can get for under a dollar a piece. But sometimes, you just have to use what you have on hand. Those little birthday candles in the junk drawer can sometimes conjure up the best results during spell work and here's the possible reasons for that:

- Small candles for spells can enhance meditation and focus. Instead of waiting for a larger candle to burn down, the quick-burning small candle helps keep your attention sharp, which can make your spell work more effective.

- Perfect for low-energy days when decorating or preparing a large candle feels like too much.

- Great for those pinch moments or emergency spell situations.

- Come in a variety of colors too. Those gold or silver ones can be used for divination!

- Affordable and accessible for almost everyone. I think you can get a pack of birthday candles for less than a dollar for a whole bunch of them.

- Portable and easy to tuck away--perfect for those who need to keep their practice discreet.

TURN HOUSEHOLD CHORES INTO SPELL WORK

Chores are always going to be there. You can never truly get rid of them, so you might as well find magic in the mundane and turn that to-do list into spell work. The key to doing this is always setting the intention whenever you do your routine. For Instance, 

- Sweeping or Vacuuming gets rid of unwanted or stagnant energies within the home. While completing the task, visualize sweeping or sucking the energy up. Start from the back of the house to the front, sweeping out the door or dumping what the vacuum sucked up in an outdoor garbage can. You can say a spell or affirmation during the process.

- Doing the Dishes cleanses your emotional state. We tend to do a lot of thinking during the dishes. What better way to release emotional energy and heaviness and let them wash down the drain? Focus on the energy inside you flowing into the plate, the energy you want to cleanse. Then wash your dish counterclockwise and wash the energy down the sink.

- Washing and folding laundry can provide blessings and protections. Laundry soap smells good and if you use essential oils, even better. Using essential oils and creating a habit of imbuing your clothes with blessings and protective energies will help you ward against nasty energies that drain or harm. Use soap with intention. When folding the clothes later, say a spell over them.

CREATE AN EMERGENCY SPELL KIT

An emergency spell kit is a handy dandy tool when you're on the road or out in public. You can grab a small Altoids tin, pencil box, or pouch to hold your items. Here are some things you can put in the spell kit:

  • Birthday Candles
  • Matches, a few sticks (you can put the striker taped into the lid of your kit to light matches)
  • A small quartz crystal
  • Those tiny tarot card you get at Five Below that are keychains
  • Tiny Salt and pepper packets, like the kind you get at restaurants
  • Perfume roller of essential oils with a combination of herbs OR
  • 2-3 herbs in a small tube.
  • Those tiny composition notebooks for petitions or sigils
  • Tiny golf pencil to write with

YOUR FINGER IS A WAND

This is the entire reason that Sally tells Kylie in Practical Magic to not cast. Because your finger has power. Your dominant pointer finger is definitely a substitute for a wand. You can use it to cast circles and influence spells. You don't need the special wand made from an ash tree. You are a conduit yourself.

Ways to use a finger as a wand:

- Drawing in the air: You can draw a sigil, pentagram, or rune above your altar, door, self, teacup, and practically anywhere. Visualize the energy like smoke following the movements of your finger and locking like a seal.
- Trace on your body: Draw protective symbols on your heart, crown, third eye, and wrists. This is good for when you have low energy, and you can even combine this with glamour magic by adding lotion to draw sigils before rubbing it in.
- Directing energy: Point your finger to an object, crystal, rock, herb, or candle to charge it with your intentions.
- Cast a circle: Extend your finger and turn in a clockwise circle to create a protective barrier around yourself, this is good for everyday life before leaving the home or protection during workings.

CHARGE THE HERBS YOU COOK WITH

Every time you enter into the kitchen, you enter in a sacred space. When I cook, I cannot have someone in the kitchen with me, it influences the energy of what I am creating. It can get messy, but it can be very fun. The best way to add magic is to set intentions with the herbs you use when making food. 

To do this hold the herb in your hand or point at it with your dominate finger. Close your eyes and focus on what you want to invite to it (love, peace, happiness, money). Visualize what color the energy is that it is associated with. Push the color into the herb to program it.

PULL ONLY ONE TAROT CARD A DAY

When first getting into divination, especially something like tarot, it can feel overwhelming to learn all the card meanings and their reversals. But here’s the truth: you don’t need to know everything right away. One of the most helpful ways to start is by creating a daily card pull practice. Just one card. No pressure, no perfection. Just you and whatever message you need to hear for that day.

You can do this in the morning to set the tone for your day or in the evening to reflect how your day went. Before looking up any meanings, take a moment to meditate on the card. What symbols stand out to you? What emotions or thoughts come up? Jot down your own interpretation first. 

Always ask what lesson could this card be teaching me today?

Because at the end of the day, your intuition will always matter more than any guidebook. Tarot isn't about getting it “right," it’s about building a relationship with your deck, and with yourself. The simpler and more connected your practice is, the more powerful it becomes. 

USE TECH FOR YOUR PRACTICE

Don’t let anyone gatekeep how you use tech in your spiritual or magical practice. Just because it’s not a physical book, pen, paper, or traditional spell tool doesn’t mean it isn’t valid. Tech is a tool, just like anything else, and when used intentionally, it can enhance and simplify your practice. Here are some cool ways to add it in: 

- A digital grimoire: If you have perfectionism, like me, and writing your spells/thoughts into a book sounds exhausting, there is no shame in making a grimoire that you keep online. I use Notion for mine and add pages that I've made on Canva to it. If I need a physical copy, it will always there for me to print out and stick it in a binder later. Having this option helps focus on the craft not the aesthetic if that is what you are needing.

- Send spells in text messages: Got a friend that has a job interview? Write them out an encouraging message and infuse that message with your intentions to aid them in their job-hunting quest. When you hit send, it's like saying "so mote it be." 

- Create a spell playlist to raise energy: Compile a list of songs and instrumental music that sets the tone for what you are trying to achieve spiritually. I don't know about you, but I feel more confident blasting metal music when I have to do something out of my comfort zone. Change the energy by changing the song.

- Make your lock screen a sigil or affirmation: Simple magic, but the easiest. You will see it daily and recharge it as you swipe to open your phone. You can also use this to ward people out of your phone as well, especially if you have privacy concerns.

USE THE TOOLS YOU HAVE AROUND YOU

It’s not all about the fancy tools. Sometimes, the most powerful magic comes from what’s already around you. This world provides us with everything we need and if we honor it, it will give back. Use your household items, use what is provided in nature. You don't need that $60 dollar cauldron for a spell, you can use any fireproof dish in your cupboard. 

Out of bay leaves? Step outside, find a leaf, and whisper your wish to it. Let the wind carry it for you.

Need a protection petition? Tell your favorite tree what you’re going through, it's been standing strong for years. It will be strong and protect you.

Don’t have the perfect apothecary jar? That leftover Red Raspberry Smucker’s jar? Still cute. Still works.

Witchcraft and intentional living aren’t about curating a Pinterest-perfect aesthetic. It’s about connecting, improvising, and infusing meaning into the everyday when practical magic is needed. Waiting for it to be perfect will make you wait forever. Life is full of mistakes and imperfections; that's the law of the universe. It can be as messy as you want it just as long as its yours.

I invite practicing witches, new and old, to do one thing in their practice to simplify it. I am not saying doing away with aesthetic practices because sometimes we need the beauty in those too. I am saying if you are having anxiety around a specific aspect of it, then start there. Start small. Just start and do it unapologetically.


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It was October 2018 when I traveled to visit a friend near Philadelphia, Mississippi. It’s a small-town area with rural farms, clay dirt roads, and lots of cornfields. We made the most of the season by doing all the festivities we planned: the fair in Jackson, frequent drives into town for shopping, and a visit to the pumpkin patch at Country Pumpkins in Caledonia, which is now permanently closed, much to my chagrin.

However, a little magic found me on those drives into town. We always passed an old white Victorian house, resting quietly on the side of a curved road. Ivy climbed up the center of it, and despite its age, it was absolutely beautiful. The attic was huge, and you could see straight into it from your car. If you know me, you know I have a weakness for Victorian architecture.

After the visit, it was time for my family and I to pack up and head back to the East Coast of Florida. On the way to the interstate, we would have to pass by the old Victorian one last time. I was excited to bid it farewell until next time. However, as we approached it, I felt a bit different in my gut. That’s when things got a little interesting.

As I looked up into the large attic from the passenger seat, it felt like time slowed. There was a glowing light from an old lamp. In the center was a woman, staring out the window to the lawn below. She wore old-fashioned clothing, and for just a moment, her eyes locked with mine. It felt like an eternity and as if I weren't even in a car anymore. I was overcome with chills, like I had slipped into a trance. When the moment passed and we drove on, I felt the spell break.

It was all I thought about on our way home. Did it happen? Did I hallucinate? Did I get enough sleep last night? All the questions were at the front of mind, but none could explain what had happened to me. Once I returned home, I asked my friend about the house. Always the skeptic who still searches for magical signs of the paranormal, I thought maybe someone had put up a Halloween decoration. But she told me that in all the years she had lived there, that house had never decorated for Halloween.

The mystery of it all still haunts me to this day. Maybe the veil between worlds had thinned, and I caught a glimpse of the afterlife, or maybe someone finally decided to get festive and scare the bejesus out of an out-of-towner. Either way, that’s the beauty of autumn. It’s full of magic—and sometimes a little fear.

Tell me about a spirit you encountered, I'd love to hear from you!


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Herbal actions is a terminology used to describe types of herbs and the effects they have on the body. For instance, if you catch a cold, you may have been told to have some ginger for it. But what is the ginger actually doing to the body and how does it work?

Learning these actions of herbs help see the bigger picture. Oftentimes, an herb can have more than one action, and it can be overwhelming trying to pick the right one. I say don’t panic (there’s an herb for that though). It’s always easier to choose the herb that has the strongest actions related to the issue you’re trying to support.

This is a short master post for the Herbal Actions I've learned along the way. I’ll be posting more in the future that go into each action and the herbs associated with them. Refer to this if you ever need a quick cheat sheet!

Adaptogens 

Helps with stress and coping. Effects the HPA system Axis (hypothalamus, pituitary, and adrenal) and Endocrine system. Allows the body to bring itself back into balance. Good for cPTSD.

Alterative 

Increases the ability for our body to detox on its own. Helps our organs get support to detox and eliminate. Good for kidneys, liver, lymph, and skin.

Analgesic

Pain relievers. Pain is subjective so it affects everyone differently. Most of the time Analgesics help calm you down which in turn improves your pain. Good for headaches or injuries.

Antibacterial

Kills or prevents the growth of bacteria. This can be done by either directly targeting or boosting the immune systems response. Good for cuts or bacterial infections. (Warning: Sometimes using antibiotics too much can actually make certain bacteria resistant. Herbs are less likely to do that. Consult a doc.)

Antidepressant

Relieves symptoms of depression. Good for moods and stabilizing sadness due to chemical imbalances in brain.

Anti-inflammatory 

Relieves inflammation in the body or on the skin. Good for inflamed joints, etc.

Antifungal 

Kills or prevents growth of fungus by either direct targeting or encouraging immune response.

Antilithic

Breaks up stones in the kidney or gallbladder. Good for passing stones when in pain.

Antimicrobial 

Umbrella term for microorganisms (anti-viral, anti-fungal, antibacterial) Good for preventing general infections.

Antispasmodic

Reduces spasms in muscles, smooth or skeletal. Good for Charley horses, etc.

Aromatic

Essential Oils. Aromatherapy. Can be antimicrobial, carminative, or diaphoretic. Good for headaches

Astringent

Causes tissues to tighten and contract. Pulls water from tissues and aids in swelling. Good for Blisters

Bitter

A taste that helps with digestion. Stimulates digestive secretions for breaking down heavier meals. Good for supporting the stomach.

Cardiotonic

Tonics used for supporting the cardiovascular system. Good for Blood Pressure, etc.

Carminative

Supports digestion by relieving gas and bloating. Good for the gut-brain connection.

Cholagogue

Increases bile production from the liver and gallbladder. Good for digestion health

Demulcent

Supports internal mucosal tissues. Good for irritated throats, etc.

Diaphoretic

Induces Sweating, usually to reduce fever. Good for detoxifying body.

Diuretic

Promotes urine production to help eliminate excess fluid built up. Good for kidneys.

Emetic 

Induces vomiting. Good for poison and drug overdose

Emmenagogue

Stimulates menstruation. Good for late periods or PCOS

Emollient

Soothes and moisturizes the external tissues, opposite of demulcent. Good for sunburns.

Exhilarant

Uplifts vital centers of the body. Heart & Mind. Used for psychiatric disorders. Good for Depression.

Expectorant

Aids in expulsion of mucus from lungs. Good for congestion from colds.

Galactagogue

Increases breast milk. Good for lactation health and calming new mothers.

Hepatic

Strengthens and detoxifies the liver. Good for liver fat and alcoholism.

Hypnotic

Powerful sedation may cause sleepiness. Good for insomnia, pain, and tension.

Hypertensive

Increases blood pressure. Good for blood circulation and cognitive function.

Hypotensive

Decrease blood pressure. Good for reducing stroke/heart attacks.

Immunomodulators

Has an effect on the immune system. Up or down regulation system. Good for illness or allergic reactions.

Laxative

Stimulates the bowels or moistens or softens stool. Good for constipation.

Lymphatic

Helps flow to relieve congestion stuck in lymphatic system. Good after an illness.

Mucilaginous

Umbrella term for Demulcent and emollient. These herbs are slippery when wet. Good for protecting tissues.

Nervine

Strengthens, relaxes, repairs, or stimulates the nervous system. Good for anxiety.

Relaxant

Eases constriction and contraction of muscle. Good for restlessness.

Rubefacient

Increases blood circulation to an area to promote healing, often turning it red. Good for faster healing.

Sedative

Reduces irritability or excitement. Slows the energy down in the body. Good for hyperactivity.

Stimulant

Increases activity at a cellular level. Good for ADHD and fatigue.

Styptic

Slows down bleeding. Good for nosebleeds.

Tonic

Restorative properties. Strengthens organ functions and increases energy. Good for supporting body systems.

Trophorestorative

Nourishes and balances a particular system. I.E. Cardiovascular. Good for focused healing.

Vulnerary

Promotes healing of wounds of the skin, mucosa, and other tissues. Good for skin regeneration


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I had the opportunity back in January to attend a wedding with one of my best friends. Luckily, we were just an hour or two away from Savannah and decided to take a day trip once the wedding was over. Visiting Bonaventure Cemetery was on my bucket list, and I was finally able to scratch it off! It was the perfect time to explore, as the usual Southern heat was asleep for the winter.

When I first stepped foot into the cemetery, my breath literally went away. As a lady from a small town with a small-town cemetery dotted with a few scattered headstones, it was amazing to see such breathtaking monuments and mausoleums. It made my goth little heart happy.

Not only was it hauntingly beautiful with large oaks draped in moss hanging over the graves, but the statues of people on memorials looked as if they could come alive at any moment and start a conversation. I savored every second of the trip.

We took our time as my friend snapped photos with her camera, and I captured a few here and there with my phone. In the distance, a group tour was underway. I eavesdropped some of history, what I could hear over the chilly wind, the rest I researched!

THE HISTORY OF BONAVENTURE

The land originally belonged to Colonel John Mullryne, who established Bonaventure Plantation around 1762. The plantation was named after the Italian phrase buona ventura, meaning “good fortune.”

During the Revolutionary War, the property was confiscated from the Mullryne family because they were Loyalists. Colonel Mullryne and his son-in-law, Josiah Tattnall Sr., fled to the Bahamas to escape persecution and never returned. After the war, Josiah Tattnall Jr. came back to Georgia and reclaimed the plantation.

Legend has it that the plantation’s mansion caught fire in 1804, a year after Josiah Tattnall Jr.’s death. Mary Tattnall (née Mullryne) calmly moved everyone outside, where they continued dining as the house burned to the ground. The mansion was never rebuilt.

Eventually, Peter Wiltberger purchased the property from Commodore Josiah Tattnall III and converted part of the land into a private cemetery called Evergreen. In 1868, Peter’s son William enhanced the cemetery with Victorian-era features like statues, winding paths, and moss-draped live oaks.

In 1907, the City of Savannah purchased the cemetery, renamed it Bonaventure Cemetery, and later expanded it by adding land from the nearby Greenwich Plantation. Today, Bonaventure covers approximately 160 acres. About 15 acres of the cemetery have been set aside specifically for Savannah’s Jewish community.

In this same breath, I also want to highlight that the romanticized version of this history is not the only history. Despite being a cemetery now, this land was once a plantation, and with that, it grew and was built on the backs of enslaved people. These people were abused, killed, and tortured, and no amount of whitewashing will erase that pain and sorrow. 

While the famous residents of Bonaventure rest beneath named headstones, the enslaved people who built this land’s legacy remain nameless and unmarked. Their stories are lost to time, but the echoes of their presence may still linger. We honor those forgotten by history, and we tell them: we see you, and we wish you peace.

NOTABLE HAUNTINGS


The Spirit of the Washerwoman

The cemetery is located beside the Wilmington River. Visitors have reported seeing a woman near the riverbanks, bending over and washing something in the water. Many believe she may have been an enslaved woman, carrying out the same chores she once performed on the plantation.

In the early dawn hours, she appears, moving in slow, rhythmic motions as if washing clothes in a basin that can’t be seen. Some have reported the distinct smell of old lye soap or the soft sound of sloshing water as she works. She is often thought to be connected to the unmarked graves of enslaved people.

The Ghost of Gracie Watson

Gracie Watson was the daughter of hotel managers in Savannah. She was a very beloved little girl who was full of life. She would sing, dance, and bring happiness to everyone that she met. However, in 1889, Gracie died of pneumonia at the age of six. In her likeness, a marble stone was carved and rests above her grave.

Visitors of the cemetery can often hear a child giggle or see a little girl looking at them from behind trees. Others report that when they leave, they feel tugging on their clothes or even hear a little girl’s voice saying, “Don’t leave.”

Some say that Gracie’s statue cries tears sometimes, and if they leave her something on her grave, it is often moved. A few have witnessed it moving by itself on a day with no wind. If you touch Gracie’s fence surrounding her grave without permission, you can often feel coldness, a sharp shock, or overwhelming sadness, this is in effort to protect her space and peace.

In the 60s, someone broke the nose tip off of Gracie's statue. That person probably had loads of bad luck.

The Headless Soldier 

“If you hear footsteps and no one’s there, don’t look behind you, unless you want to meet the man who can’t look back.” — Local ghost tour guides

Near the crumbling Confederate soldier graves, draped in moss, there is a tale of an unknown, and headless, man haunting the cemetery. Nobody knows who this spirit is; his name was buried with his body after the Civil War. He wears a Confederate soldier’s uniform and marches up and down the area.

According to legend, he lost his head on the battlefield, and it could not be found to bury with his body. Others believe grave robbers took the poor soul’s crown.

There have been reports of boots stomping on gravel or leaves. His misty apparition can be seen during twilight hours, as if he is guarding the cemetery while on patrol. Others have reported seeing his headless spirit kneeling at certain gravesites, and if you approach him, he disappears. A sense of dread and cold, even on warm nights, can be felt in the Confederate gravestone area, as if you are being followed or watched.

The Weeping Woman (Woman in White)

Legend has it that in the 1800s, there was a bride-to-be, possibly named Ann, who was set to be married. However, her fiancé was tragically killed in the Civil War before they could wed. Mad with grief, she would visit his grave dressed in white, as they had planned for their wedding. Some stories say she took her own life at his gravesite, while others say it was simply a heart attack. After her death, caretakers reported seeing a woman in white kneeling at a grave, silently sobbing into her hands.

She can be seen during twilight hours, her gown fading into the morning mist as she walks around the cemetery, searching for her fiancé’s grave. A few have seen her lift her head and stare at them with hollowed black or glowing eyes before vanishing without a trace. Some visitors report feelings of grief and sorrow when they reach a certain area of the cemetery, and some say they can hear her whisper her fiancé’s name.


The Cemetery Keeper's Ghost

This spirit is thought to be the soul of a former caretaker of the cemetery. He spent most of his life walking the paths and tending to those who had departed. Sightings report the apparition wearing suspenders and a worn hat. He quietly walks through the early morning or twilight hours, looking over the gravestones carefully, as if he were the guardian of the cemetery.

The ghost is often seen carrying gardening tools, like a rake or shovel, on his rounds. Visitors frequently report hearing leaves crunching from soft footsteps or the sound of distant hammering. When he is near, a feeling of gentle protectiveness and safety tends to settle over those nearby.

However, there have also been stories of people who disrespected or vandalized graves and incurred the wrath of the caretaker. Some of them have reported having accidents or a terrible sense of dread that won’t go away after leaving. If you litter or shout loudly, a cold presence may follow you until you right the wrong. Some spirits don’t take kindly to people touching the wrought iron fences around their graves — and a few have reported being shocked or even thrown backward by an unseen force.

MY PERSONAL EXPERIENCE

When we parked at Bonaventure, we parked near the welcome center entrance, the old caretaker’s house. If you’re looking at the map, that’s the southwest parking lot. We immediately spotted tons of beautiful monuments, many of them marked with the Star of David. I gathered that we were in the Jewish section of the cemetery, which has been specially reserved.

In the middle of the rows of graves, there was a red building sitting quietly, the Jewish Chapel. It was closed off, with engraved tablets on each side of the interior wall. However, during our visit, there were random boxes, papers, and trash scattered inside. In my opinion, it looked a little disrespectful.

Nearby is a grave where the ashes of 344 victims of the Holocaust were laid to rest. Their memorials were covered in small stones. When you visit a grave, you place a stone out of respect. I placed one, too. Stones represent lasting memory and permanence.

After we left this area, we walked around the curved bend, admiring the mausoleums, their copper doors turned turquoise with age. They were beautiful and breathtaking. At one point, I found a weird glass piece on the ground that looked like it may have come from one of the mausoleum doors. Instead of taking it with me, and potentially getting haunted, I placed it gently on the memorial, just as I had done with the stone.

We looped past the American Legion Fold, cut through the middle of the cemetery to where the Tatnall family is buried, turned right at Plantation Square and hit Evergreen Circle. Eventually, we got tired and hungry, so we made our way back to the front. It’s a huge cemetery, and we couldn’t see it all in one day, which gives me the perfect excuse to go back.

In regard to my paranormal experience, I didn't physically see any spirits. It was in the daytime, but I felt them and just knew they were there. At certain graves, I would feel sadness and loneliness. I avoided touching certain monuments or fences that had buzzes of anger near it or just a general protectiveness of the territory. While walking the winding paths, I felt watched, but it wasn't scary or alarming. When my friend would go off to take a photo of something else, I still felt as though I were walking with something I couldn't see. Perhaps it was the old caretaker that haunts the grounds.

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